- We pick things that are too broad. "I want to lose weight." Great. Make that your N.Y.R. around 3 p.m. one day, and then the next day after you have gotten up and out of bed and visited your john you've accomplished your goal. But that wasn't really the real goal there. "I want to live healthier." "I want to spend less." Those are all admirable goals...but all too often I think we leave them at that one broad statement.
- This one kinda goes along with the previous one...but we don't give ourselves a finish mark. "I want to lose 20 pounds" is a little better than "I want to lose weight" because it gives you a specific goal to work towards. But then often we give ourselves an outlandish finish mark and we want to finish it by March.
- We make a N.Y.R. that requires a regular schedule. "I want to exercise 3 times every week." So as soon as you don't fulfill one week you feel like you've blown your entire resolution and why keep trying.
- We pick something outlandish. "I want to sing on stage with the remaining members of Queen while wearing THE Michael Jackson glove." Probably not going to happen.
- Then of course nature works against us, the minions plot to ruin our lives, Karma has a few good kicks we may or may not deserve, and we just don't get done what we want to.
Now, I know what you're thinking because this is what I thought at first: "101 things?! Are you kidding? No way I could do that." Don't exit yet either.
- It gives me narrow goals. I know what I mean by "get my hair layered." Yes, that is still up to interpretation, but it's definitely better than "do something different with my hair."
- I have finish marks. As I complete items on the list, I can cross them off. I see progress being done. I keep track of my progress on my blog so that I can put links to finished projects, articles that helped, and then it's like show-and-tell. It may be that no-one ever actually looks at that page, but some might and so it helps me want to check things off the list and it's fun to show what I've been able to accomplish.
- I have all year to work on the items. I can have individual items on a schedule (one of mine this past year was to go on a walk or hike with Cameron at least once a month), but the whole list is not on a daily, weekly, or monthly schedule.
- If one item is outlandish...it's only 1 in 101. The whole list isn't blown if that one item doesn't get done.
- I know that as I go through the year I will find new hobbies and interests and that I will change and grow, so by August I may actually not be interested in doing some of the things I was interested in doing back in January. So I view this list not as a list of "must dos or your year was a piece of poop", but more as a "you might try this and just see how many you can get done". Don't expect to finish everything on the list.
- Some days when I'm bored I go through my list and get ideas of what to do.
To see my current list click here.